we aren't born with insecurities we're
told what to be insecure about I know
process that for a second okay now let's
fix it I used to hate the way I looked I
covered my face in every single picture
I wanted a nose job at 15 years old and
even asked for one at 15 years old I
always had a filter on because I didn't
feel pretty enough and I always hid
Myself Away out of fear of judgment
today I'm not perfect I have acne I have
the same nose that I used to hate and
nowadays I even have people criticizing
my appearance online and yet I have
never felt more confident and this is
how as always here are the video
chapters in this Article we're really
going to be focusing on mastering your
self- perception using mindset shifts to
make sure that you're feeling your most
confident self because it's not about
changing what makes you feel insecure
it's about using it to your advantage
and right before we get into it haven't
you heard I'm writing a book it's called
by yourself the damn flowers and it's
available to pre-order now this is The
Ultimate Guide to achieving radical
self-love the link is in the description
to pre-order on either Amazon audable or
water stone and it is packed with every
lesson and Method I have learned in the
last four years of my self- Lov Journey
it also has actionable advice and real
life examples given throughout I can't
wait for you guys to read it I also have
my podcast Vlog Channel and other
socials like my Instagram linked Below
in the description but for now let's get
into it chapter number one mindset
shifts to go from insecurity to
confidence to start I want to give the
clearest example of what an insecure
versus confident person would say and to
do that of course we're going to bring
back our of girls Lola and Athena I feel
like I'm so behind I've got all these
failures and yet everybody else my age
seems to be winning it's just not fair
life is a game not competition I haven't
achieved any of my goals yet but that
doesn't mean I won't plus my friends
successes are so irrelevant because why
would I be looking at somebody else's
game board over my own the only prize
I'm able to win is right here on my own
game board wait that guy likes me okay
no tell me how do I start a conversation
with him yeah I know he likes me but I'm
not interested same with the last dozen
guys you show showed me and no I'm not
going to apologize for rejecting more
Partners than I accept like is that not
just a sign of high self-esteem not
everyone is meant for us so why would I
say yes to everyone my high standards
protect me from the masses so of course
I'm going to reject the 99% because I
want top 1% treatment thanks can you
take that picture again my belly looks
too big in it yeah that'll do I only
need one shot why because this is my
face and this is my body and you can
take 20 pictures or 200 pictures and
nothing's going to change that you'll
see my tummy blo my crooked teeth and my
imperfect skin either way I just
accepted that they're all a part of what
I look like and it saves me a lot of
time and grief you see the difference
okay now let's move on to the five
mindset shifts that are going to help
you go from insecure to confident step
number one understand where insecurity
comes from it comes from being told what
is good versus bad and also comparison
from everyone around us and these
standards are so so stupid because think
about about it when a new trend comes
around then it's the coolest thing to do
everyone wants to do it and a lot of the
times these Trends come about and the
people that did it a couple years before
it was popular to do they got bullied
for it stuff like putting oil in your
hair stuff like dressing a certain way
embracing a certain makeup Trend it's
only acceptable when everyone else
decides it's acceptable there was
nothing ever inherently wrong with doing
that thing in the first place there was
nothing bad about it it's all just
opinions and you need to master
Detachment to get over it the reason you
get insecure is because you value other
people's opinions over your own it's as
simple as that so you need to
consciously decide how you feel about a
certain thing whether it's a parents
mindset personality let's take bloating
for example I always have this little
this little Pooch this little bit of
lower belly fat especially after I eat a
big meal did you know that 90% of women
have that little stubborn pocket of
belly fat because it's actually there to
protect your reproductive organs it's a
natural normal part of being a woman
almost every single woman has it it's
functional and that's what makes me
accept it more I look at it and I'm like
this is this is just what makes me a
woman there's nothing bad about it it
doesn't mean that I don't have the right
body it means everything is working in
the way that it should why do I need to
have a flat stomach in order to be
beautiful and when you finally start
questioning these things and making up
your own opinion about things whether
it's bad skin body weight you'll feel
much more confident because you're not
internalizing everybody else's opinions
of you everybody is always going to have
a complete different opinion there are
some people that think Beyonce and Zena
are ugly and others that think they're
absolutely gorgeous everyone's opinion
is invalid okay there are always going
to be some people that think the same
thing is good versus bad you are saving
yourself so much time and stress by just
deciding on your own mindset shift
number two accept that you will never be
perfect and I'm talking overall okay
let's say that technically you fit the
beauty standard and you are 100%
physically perfectly beautiful that
doesn't mean that you're not still going
to have emotional things that you're
working through and a mindset that you
need to work on human beings are always
a work in progress that's the beauty of
life we're always growing we're always
evolving there are always things to
learn about ourselves and ReDiscover you
don't know yourself completely yet
because you haven't been in every single
life situation yet that is when we
discover new parts of our personalities
and our mindset and the way we think and
then we can decide if we want to work on
them or keep them the same and really
grow into who we want to be and create
the most ideal version of ourselves we
can't just naturally be perfect right
now because we are going to continuously
change over the years if we did all fit
a perfect standard then we'd all be
clones of each other our imperfections
make us who we are for example my nose
is not technically the perfect most
desirable nose it's crooked it's not
symmetrical sometimes I look at pictures
and it looks so large and
disproportionate to the rest of my face
but I look at it and I'm like but so
what that's my nose the key with this
step is to embrace all of your ugly
parts to the point that you are
desensitized to them if every time you
look at your nose and all you really see
is this mental image of the skinniest
slimmest upturn nose that every super
model with a nose job has of course
you're never going to except your nose
because you're not actually seeing it
for what it is I don't look in the
mirror every single day and manipulate
myself into thinking that my nose is
perfect and it's the dream one to have
because I know it's not but that's okay
because imperfect qualities are okay and
normal and they don't take away from
your worthiness or desirability with
this step I realize there is literally
nothing ever to criticize myself for
because why would I hold myself up
against a standard that's based more on
what other people look like and
therefore literally goes against
everything I was born with in doing that
and engaging in that practice I'm
literally telling my younger self that
everything she is how she looks like is
unacceptable would you speak to your
younger self like that would you speak
to your child like that no so why are
you holding yourself up against
standards that have nothing to do with
who you are or how you look like it
makes no sense step number three your
focus is all wrong you are insecure
because you're choosing to be insecure
first thing in the morning you go into
the bathroom look in the mirror and
start fixating on your skin on its
appearance how it looks worse than it
did the day before then you you go ahead
and you put your outfit on for the day
and you look in the mirror and you
criticize your body and you think well
it doesn't look how I imagined it to
look and why does my body not look
snatched and this doesn't compliment me
and I don't have the perfect figure and
you are pulling out all of these little
imperfections about yourself when you're
doing the most simple activity like
getting dressed for the day then you go
out and you're talking to people and you
get upset when an interaction didn't go
in the way that you imagined it to and
you thought you were too socially
awkward and you didn't speak in the way
that you wanted to or you didn't say
what you wanted to or you felt like you
were too quiet or shy and now you're
worrying about what they are going to
think about you now at the end of the
day after you didn't meet all of those
imagined ideals you label yourself a
failure someone who should be insecure
someone who's not good enough you're a
loser you're ugly you're imperfect but
from what based on what rules that you
made up from where what now imagine your
day goes like this instead you wake up
go into the bathroom do your skincare
and then you hop straight in the shower
when you're in the shower you are
thinking about and fixing dating on what
you can incorporate into your day to
make it a better one a greater one to
improve your happiness levels 1% more
than they were yesterday what can you do
you're going to go get a coffee you're
going to go see a friend you're going to
call someone you're going to put on a
cuter outfit you're going to spend some
time in the sun you're going to go on
exercise you're going to read your
favorite book you're going to have a
movie night you're thinking about that
instead now that that's your number one
Focus you don't even look in the mirror
for more than a minute because your mind
is in other places then you go to get
dressed you put your outfit on and while
looking at yourself in the mirror you
realize hey this is my body it's just a
vessel that holds everything that is
important about me my appro is actually
the least interesting thing about me
because I have so much value and
worthiness and amazing energy to offer
as a human being whether my stomach is
sticking out in this or my body doesn't
look snatched enough or I don't look
curvy enough or these genes don't
compliment me is irrelevant this body
helps me get to places it helps me move
it helps me live life it keeps me
healthy and alive so that I can
experience all of the joy and the
blessings that life has to offer how
lucky am I after you get dressed you
leave the house and you go to an event
with a room filled with people and you
think this is a great opportunity to
mingle and have some social interaction
because it will help me grow as a person
it will help my confidence especially my
social confidence my skills with talking
to other people which I'm not quite
there with yet but at least I can try
just to say that I did it and learn from
it maybe if I just go up and talk to
someone I'll have the amazing
opportunity of having a meaningful
conversation with somebody else and yes
I'm still shy and I might not know what
to talk about and there might be an
awkward silence but hey there's always a
chance that I could make somebody else's
day better just from having a
conversation with them I could put a
smile on somebody else's face and that
will be a huge achievement for the day
can you tell the difference with that
second routine of how that person's day
went they finally shifted their focus
and their fixations away from themselves
and instead on their life on how they
can make it better on what they can
experience and how they can grow and
what Joy they can grab on what goals
they can achieve on what life they can
experience without worrying if they look
good doing it now when trying to shift
your focus every single day it will be
hard your brain will try to naturally
bring back all of those negative
thoughts and fixations because
essentially it's a habit and that's
what's made you insecure but that's okay
don't beat yourself up for it okay when
those thoughts come back You observe
them and then you let them go that is
such a big key in detaching for example
I have been through this for months
every single morning I'll wake up I look
in the mirror and my brain will go oh
look you have another breakout on your
forehead you still don't have clear skin
and I observe that thought and I go okay
there's nothing I can do but me
criticizing myself isn't going to do
good for anybody so I'm going to hop in
the shower and think about how I can
have an amazing day instead same for
when I'm looking at a picture of myself
and I have that lower tummy blow I'm
like okay my tummy sticking out but that
means I had an amazing meal and also
I've already decided there's nothing bad
about that step number four no one can
be better than you because everybody's
opinion is invalid there are girls out
there that hate and complain about how
small they are how skinny they are that
no matter to what they eat they still
can't gain the weight and they hate
their body type meanwhile there are
other girls out there who are doing
absolutely anything to lose the way and
have the exact same body type of the
girls who are trying to get rid of it
how does that make any sense how can two
people with complete different body
types be chasing such different ideals
and make themselves feel insecure when
there are other people that would want
exactly what they have there are so many
people out there that will admire
exactly what you have and there are also
so many people out there that will hate
exactly what you have but it doesn't
matter because at the end of the day
those two contrasting opinions cancel
each other out because your opinion is
the only one that actually matters for
example my first ever boyfriend told me
that my shoulders are too wide you
probably can't tell because of the top
I'm wearing but if I was wearing like a
b top they're too wide they're not
feminine enough it's like a really bad
frame for my body type right and ever
since every single time I look in the
mirror I noticed that about me that my
shoulders are considered too wide and I
had never noticed that about my body
before that is an example of someone
else trying to give me and trying to
create an insecurity that I hadn't even
considered before I recognized that and
I decided to change my own opinion on it
because I also realize that opinion is
so invalid there are so many people out
there that like my body type that would
never even fixate or focus on my
shoulders so why should I focus on what
anybody else has to say about me whether
it's an insult or complimentary even the
more Focus that you give to people that
are complimenting you the more power you
are giving to those that are going to
insult you and try to bring you down the
focus here is to detach from other
people's op I as a whole whether they're
good or bad also just a quick note only
the most insecure empty shell of a human
being sad pathetic people will find the
time and energy to try and bring you
down and create insecurities for you so
remember that and finally the fifth
mindset shift stop identifying with the
insecure version of you this is probably
the most important step when I started
University I had a huge glow up over the
summer okay I got contact lenses I got
rid of my braces and my glasses I
learned how to do my makeup I got hair
extensions I changed my whole wardrobe I
was was feeling myself I looked a lot
cuter than I did in school and guess
what it worked I went to UNI I got so
much attention every boy I liked liked
me back everybody wanted to be my friend
people would compliment me left right
and Center I was like wo people consider
me to be beautiful people want to date
me people want to hang around me people
want to learn how I do my makeup this is
insane and it was insane because I had
gone through 7 eight years of school
where nobody ever liked me back I was
called ugly I was made fun of no one
wanted to hang out with me it was just
several years of rejection and then I
had a glow up and I got everything I
wanted and despite getting all of that
attention and validation I still felt
the same inside I still felt so
painfully insecure I had still
internalized all of the previous
negative opinions that everybody had of
me but now I just had some added vain
energy and shallowness because I started
making my appearance the most important
part about me because I was still
fixating on other people's opinions of
me and so to fix this I had to give
myself a rebirth to distance myself and
no longer associate myself with the past
version of me the way to do this is so
simple it's just a mindset shift and I
still do this to this day every single
morning I wake up I think this is the
first day of my life and do you know how
much of a beautiful way of thinking this
is because think about it if every day
you wake up and you're like this is the
first day of my life every single day of
your life gets better because you are
waking up and you are not thinking of
your past you are only thinking about
what you can bring into that day but you
are waking up with additional wisdom
skills and lessons from all of the days
prior who would you be if you woke up
into your life today with all of the
amazing things you've learned and all of
the amazing things that have made you
who you are without harboring all of the
baggage from the past you would move
very very differently if you didn't have
past opinions haters insecurities
holding you back as a result I've led up
so much that the people from my past
don't even know me anymore like I'm not
that person in the slightest so what
they have to say about me is irrelevant
I have instead shifted to who I want to
be which is my alter ego which is the
most confident version of myself and
there are a few ways that I did this one
is imagining myself as the most
confident version and then doing things
in my day that she would do so that I
can align to that version even more but
also little things that are distancing
from my past for example I changed my
name my name right now that everybody
knows me as is Tam core core is actually
my middle name I got rid of my last name
because all throughout School everyone
called me by my first and last name my
first name is actually tamana got rid of
that shortened it to Tam Tam core no one
ever knew me as that as soon as I made
that my name and my kind of person
person on social media it helped me
shift away from who I used to be same
with changing my appearance temporarily
I'm always about have a glow up but not
in the sense that because your
appearance is the most important thing
about you and you need to do it to
impress others but because this is a fun
little Avatar to play with and to
express yourself try some different
clothing try a different hairstyle try a
different makeup look just for the fun
of it so that you can step into the
newest version of yourself and the same
goes for the kind of life I live my
daily routine everyone around me the
habits that I do are so far from who I
used to be how could I ever identify
with that past version of myself and
that leads us onto chapter number two
lifestyle shifts to get you to Ultimate
unbreakable confidence the first
lifestyle shift is to normalize your
insecurities by shifting your
consumption when I was really struggling
with my appearance and having certain
ethnic features I used to make Pinterest
Boards of people who had that appearance
so I would make one Board of models who
embraced their body type that looked a
lot like mine and that helped me really
accept it and see the beauty in it
because if they can struct with it why
can't I I made another for um Indian and
Bollywood actresses who had a similar
nose shape to me and never got surgery
because then it helped me embrace my own
more same with women who had similar
hair color and skin color to me and I
could just admire the beauty in them and
that's what helped me admire the beauty
back in myself because if I was always
looking at social media influencers with
blonde hair and blue eyes nothing wrong
with them but they're the complete
opposite of me and if my consumption is
always fixated on them or photoshopped
models in magazines with complete
different body types of course I'm going
to feel bad about myself because I'm
never seeing anybody who looks like me
Tik Tok is so great for this if you type
in body positivity you're going to get
so much confident that's going to make
you feel like the baddest same
goes for acne I have followed a lot of
skincare experts who don't fixate on
this thing of like acne makes you ugly
or you need to get rid of it no matter
what of course we are all working
towards clear skin if that is your goal
however if it's going to be with you
right now if you it's on your face right
now why would you waste time feeling bad
about it instead you got to learn to
love yourself with it on your face
regardless because it doesn't Define who
you are it's such an insignificant part
in all of the amazing pieces of what
makes you you and when I saw other
people embracing that acne coming online
no makeup showing that acne showing acne
friendly makeup it normalizes having it
and then you can stop criticizing
yourself for having it as if you are
failing at life and you are not
beautiful enough and everybody else can
do this one thing and you can't
lifestyle shift number two this is so
important stop reasoning with the
insecurity for example sending your
selfie to your group chat before you
post on social media to see if it's good
enough asking your friend does my body
look okay does this dress make me look
fat no you are putting your confidence
in somebody else's hands and you are
helping the insecurity grow as a result
of doing that you are giving your
insecurity all of the attention it wants
while not being decisive about your
emotions on it so then the insecurity
gets to control you so I've stepped away
from reasoning and now what I do is I
would never ask somebody oh my God does
my skin look okay can you see the acne I
don't know if I should go to the event
because my skin doesn't look good now I
know I have acne it's bumps on my skin I
can see it in the mirror I'm not going
to go around asking for reassurance from
everybody else I don't need reassurance
I know exactly what's there it's
definitely not going to stop me from
living my life or to start disliking
myself that's so boring are you not
bored of criticizing yourself for every
single impossible standard you give to
yourself seriously iously you know what
to get really deep on you for a second I
think little things like struggling with
your body image struggling with your
skin thinking that you need to be more
extroverted or a different kind of
person all of these little flaws we have
are given to us for a reason I think
that they are tools that help us love
ourselves more fiercely and more
unconditionally because if you were
perfect all of the time and you had
nothing to worry about and then all of a
sudden something was taken from you how
are you going to know that you will
still love yourself on your worst days
if you are being given your wor days
right now I see that as a gift that
means that you can love yourself in any
circumstance given that is Unstoppable
confidence once you master that and once
you can get your head around that floor
or insecurity that makes you ugly I mean
it doesn't but you know what I mean that
means you can start going throughout
your life and no matter what is thrown
at you no matter what opinions are
thrown at you you have built up this
wall as a result I think it's the
perfect Foundation to building real
self- Lov not the self- Lov that most
people think they have because they look
perfect all the time they have the dream
body if that's taken away what do you
have how are you going to feel about
yourself lifestyle shift number three
achieving goals makes you confident you
think I got time to be insecure staring
at my naked body in the mirror every
time before I go into a shower pointing
out all of its flaws nah I am too busy
living out my best life as my dream
woman your emotions are so much more
powerful than some mediocre limiting
thoughts that you have just collected as
a result of other people's opinions and
media consumption the way you feel
though the that is what makes the
difference I live a life that makes me
feel like the most confident ideal
version of myself so I can't associate
myself with insecurities because I don't
live a life that aligns to them or even
entertains them for example if you don't
step out of your comfort zone and you
just simply tolerate the life that has
been given to you of course you have
more time to start associating your sens
self to what other people think about
you because you're not already actively
creating the most ideal version of
yourself this then links into your
portfolio of proof which is is a major
element in building unbreakable
confidence this concept is basically
about trying new things so the next time
you doubt yourself or minimize your
Worth to something so insignificant like
your appearance your body type your
popularity your status your success you
can then remember all of the
self-respect resilience strength and
lessons that you've gathered from every
single goal you've achieved no matter
how big or small for example with me my
confidence has grown with every new
project that I have started for example
that's why I've literally written a
whole book that's being published but
first it was YouTube YouTube scared the
hell out of me but the more I did it the
more comfortable and confident I felt
with it so then I moved on and I started
a podcast and that whole creation
process scared me because I'd never done
anything like that before I kid you not
it took me like 4 days to figure out how
to use a microphone but then I conquered
it and it added to my portfolio of proof
of my confidence of my self-perception
all of these ideas and memories to
reference in my head the next time I
feel bad about myself cuz I'm like hey
added that and that and that and that
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lifestyle shift number four only
associate yourself with confident
authentic people listening to certain
books podcasts even watching YouTube
videos following and influencers that
spoke about achieving goals and what
their personal preferences are and how
they live their life and their routines
showed me how much more there is to life
than your appearance how much better I
could get at thinking and living because
hey even if you're not insecure about
your appearance maybe it's you want to
work on your social confidence or
learning a certain skill then go out and
learn it do yourself that favor or you
can watch content out there that's
reassuring that validates the fact that
you might be shy you might be quieter
and that is completely okay there's
nothing wrong with that when I was
following every celebrity on social
media and keeping up with their lives
when I was following Beauty influencers
watching reality TV there was something
new to get or have every single day I
was Googling waste trainers online I was
being sold slimming tees on Instagram I
was considering Botox and dying my hair
because that is all that I was seeing in
my world of consumption now all I hear
is Wellness practices I learn how to
love myself more how to own my
authenticity how to build my dream life
how to hold myself accountable there are
all these goals and new things that I'm
trying out every single day my
appearance is the last thing that comes
to my mind these kinds of people are so
focused on their growth they don't
critique who they are their personality
they focus on living better they focus
on growth and happiness and now I'm a
better person as a result because every
single day my focus is on how can I
become a more intelligent person how can
I be mentally stronger more emotionally
resilient and I do all of that for the
fun of it for the life experience for
the journey not for the validation and
finally the fifth lifestyle shift is
build your own confidence routine there
is so much magic in the routines and the
habits that you carry out every single
day and that is what helps you shift
your identity from someone who is
chasing other people's approval and is
fixating on a few insecurities they have
to someone who doesn't even pay
attention to it because it does not
matter an example of something you can
Implement into your confidence routine
is doing what you say you're going to do
when you say you're going to do it
simple as if you tell yourself tomorrow
I need to be at the gym at 800 a.m. you
better take yourself there because
otherwise you start to live a life where
you only prioritize other people's
schedules and other people's time over
your own because you'll make it to class
on time you'll make it to work on time
you'll make it to your appointment on
time but when you tell yourself this is
the time I'm scheduling for me time for
my solo date for my gym for my studying
session you won't do it that's when the
boundaries and the lines get blurred
that's what you get to ignore then where
is the self-respect so yes even sticking
to the times you tell yourself is now a
very personal task because every single
time you decide to ignore that you
basically telling yourself you're not
not worth that time you're not worth
that commitment you're not worth that
discipline setting boundaries is another
great confidence building tool I would
say try to build the habit of trying to
say no to at least one person once a
week I actually have a full guide on how
to set boundaries examples of how you
would say boundaries on my channel so
you can check that out because truly
these smaller steps are what helps build
the bigger picture of unbreakable
confidence another example of your
competence routine is to honor your
needs you don't need to embrace hustle
culture okay if you need a break you're
going to take it because you don't care
if someone else was to look at you and
think that you're lazy or you're not
working hard enough doesn't matter
absolutely irrelevant and that's when
you allow yourself to start engaging
more in self-love and taking care of
yourself and building this relationship
with yourself than worrying about what
other people are going to think exposure
therapy is probably the most important
part of a confidence routine stuff like
trying to talk to a new person every
single day whether it's your Barista at
your favorite Cafe whether it's a
stranger that you opened a door for in a
restaurant stuff like going on a solo
dat stuff that basically makes you
nervous and scares you if you are
already solo dating because you've been
here for a while then take up a notch go
to a concert alone go to a fancy
romantic restaurant alone the purpose of
this is to minimize the impact that
other people have on you so that you can
get more comfy with your self validation
instead because the more times that you
embrace your cringe the Freer that you
will be because you have desensitized
yourself to those things the more you
hide yourself away live in fear worry
about what other people are going to say
the more it will have control on you for
the rest of your life because you
haven't even faced the fair yet you
haven't even done something to prove it
wrong and to prove insignificant and
invalid it is okay you're going to go to
a restaurant sit there alone and think
that oh my God everyone's looking at me
and judging me but you go do it you
leave and instead you think I survived
everything was okay now I can go do it
again and the fear is then destroyed
practicing gratitude is another crucial
step in your confidence routine I would
also say tracking your progress as well
I love to have like a digital diary or
to record a little video or a voice memo
to look back on of everything I did
today that was a win no matter how big
or small did I have a good day today did
I nourish my body today and that way you
are really always checking in with
yourself you are your own biggest
motivator and you can also see how much
you're growing and improving every
single day it gives you more things to
feel good about I would also say shadow
work Journal prompts are so important if
you were to Google Shadow work
insecurity prompts that would help you
so much to really defeat all of these
insecurities with logic and get behind
the causation of them so that you can
finally get rid of them and finally the
last part of building a confidence
routine is to spend time with uplifting
people whether it be your friends family
books podcasts you name it and finally
chapter number three five actionable
steps for the homework chapter that you
can Implement today to make sure that
you are actually taking the advice from
this video implementing it into your
life so that you can grow as a person
and become the most confident version of
yourself let's get into it number one
start building your portfolio of proof I
want you to do something this week that
will challenge one of your negative
limiting thoughts whether it's posting a
selfie without a filter whether it's
talking to a stranger whether it's going
out alone how task number two draw out
your confident life not your confident
appearance so I want you to start
thinking of energy shifts places people
you could meet things you could do life
experience you could have that is going
to make you feel like that girl rather
than just looking like that girl setting
up a side hustle you can check out bios
sites in the link in the description
going out and trying a new activity
taking up sport taking up a painting
class homework test number three write
out a list of your insecurities and then
beat them with logic firstly where does
it come from we already know that the
these things are created they are not
inherently a part of us where did it
come from what did somebody say to you
and then I want you to consciously
Define what that insecurity is and how
you can start using it to your advantage
and loving it instead there's links into
homet task number four you can use the
shadow work insecurity prompts that I
have on the screen to figure out where
these insecurities come from and then
putting a solution to them and the last
homework task is to start being kinder
to yourself when you shift your
lifestyle and you start doing nice
things for yourself all the time you
just want to make sure that you always
have the best day then being insecure
and criticizing yourself feels so
unnatural in the life that you're living
it's gone I would never critique myself
I'm out here buying myself flowers I
take myself on dates all of a sudden
looking in a mirror and then trying to
pick out flaws I feel so unnatural to
how I treat myself all day every day it
just doesn't mat up I don't identify as
the kind of person that is trying to
chase approval from my family and
friends and you need to do the same I
want you to speak kind of words to
yourself I want you to do your
affirmations I want you to treat
yourself I want you to honor your needs
and that brings us to the end of this
video I hope you guys enjoyed it and
learned something if you did comment
down below let me know what your
favorite lesson was because that's what
helps me make these videos so much
better make sure you check out all the
links in the description and pre-order
my new book so that we can really get on
the self- love train and just love
ourselves so fiercely and become the
most confident versions of ourselves I
appreciate you and I hope you guys have
the best week
bye
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