Stop Spending Money On Unnecessary Things bro

 if you're the type of person that spends

so much money on a necessary thing so

much so that you feel like it's become

an addiction that you no longer have

control over I'm here to tell you it's

not your fault the reason that you can't

control your spending is because we're

living in a world that our primitive

brains can't function and it's so clear

to see because we live in the age where

everyone is addicted to something with

that social media oving or online

shopping

it's very hard to have self-control in

the world that we're living in and if

you find yourself spending too much

money on unnecessary things if you find

yourself addicted to spending money then

this video is for you because in this

video we're going to analyze this

addictive world that we live in and how

to overcome it to create a better

relationship with money and a lot of

what we're going to talk about in this

video comes from this book dopamine

Nation by Anna lmuk so so in order to

understand why it's so hard to have

self-control in this world we need to

first talk about our past with chapter

one from scarcity to

abundance as I said if you have trouble

with spending too much money it's

probably not your fault because although

it's important to have self-control and

personal responsibility we're competing

against our own human psychology and let

me explain how by giving you a crash

course on human history which begins

about 200,000 years ago when we humans

were hunter gatherers and this was a

time of hardship and scarcity where our

biggest Pleasures were sitting around a

warm fire finding food in the story of

the hunt and we lived in that scarce

world for about

180,000 years until then about 12,000

years ago we human beings settled down

and discovered farming which made

survival easier and things were less

scarce and we can enjoy easier access to

food more security and easier work and

with all that extra time we started to

become more advanced which leads us to

today where we're living in this age of

comfort and abundance where we have

online shopping food delivery apps and

cars and so the reason that you're

having trouble spending too much money

is because our brains evolve of the

period of 200,000 years to live in a

world of hardship and scarcity but for

the last 50 years we've been living in a

world of extreme comfort and abundance

it's hard to have self-control with our

spending because our own human

psychology is against us our brains are

saying seek pleasure things are scarce

but we live in a time where pleasure is

extremely easy to come by which leads me

to chapter two the age of easy pleasure

so back in the day when we were chasing

the Buffalo before we sold out to the

man pleasure wasn't something that was

easy to com by I mean we might spend

hours walking through the forest

eventually find some berries and get

pleasure from eating those sweet berries

we put in all this effort first to

receive this small reward and this

pleasure was good for us because things

were scarce and did and encouraged us

but nowadays pleasure is so easy to come

by I mean we can simply pull out our

smartphones order some sugarcoated

berries on instacart along with a bunch

of candy and get it delivered to your

house we put in no effort to get the

reward and because we human beings love

our pleasure when it's extremely easy to

get we seek it out as much as we can and

we frequently buy things on Amazon seek

convenience through apps and buy nice

possessions we do these activities at

involve buying things and spending money

because it makes us feel good we like to

seek this pleasure but what ends up

happening is when we do this too much it

creates this addictive behavior where

you buy something to get pleasure then

you want to recreate that feeling but

you have to buy something bigger then

you have to buy something bigger and

eventually you find yourself unable to

control your spinning not because you're

addicted to stuff but because you're

addicted to the pleasure that comes from

spending money you're addicted to that

exciting feeling that comes from

spending money and because we live in

this world of abundance this world of

easy pleasure it's something that's

extremely hard to overcome but to

overcome this addiction we next need to

talk about how addictions work with

chapter 3 the pain pleasure seesaw all

right so now that we established that

the reason it's so hard to stop spending

money is because your brain evolved for

hardship and scarcity but is living in

comfort and abundance let's try to

understand how this creates an addiction

by talking about what the author of

dopamine Nation calls the pain pleasure

seesaw so let's imagine a seesaw or as

they say in England a TI and on one side

of the Seesaw is pleasure and on the

other side is pain this is your Natural

Balance now whenever you do a high

dopamine activity like online shopping

you push down on the pleasure side of

the Seesaw getting pleasure from buying

something in no pain however eventually

your brain wants to go back to this

balance so afterwards you might

experience some pain like boredom or

lack of contentment and once you're back

to that balance you want to experience

that feeling of pleasure again but this

time you need a bigger hit so you have

to spend more money which again

increases the pleasure side but

afterwards you experience some pain to

balance it out and eventually as you

keep doing this instead of returning to

a neutral balance your default balance

is pain and instead of feeling neutral

when you're not spending money you feel

bad and so you start to spend more and

more money to both get pleasure and

combat pain and so if you're having

trouble spending too much money it might

be because for so long you've been

seeking pleasure from the behavior of

spending money that you've created this

imbalance with your pain and pleasure

and the only way to break this addiction

is get back to that equilibrium so let's

talk about how we do that and how we can

ab break this addiction with chapter 4

returning to

equilibrium now I am not a psychiatrist

but if you're having trouble with

spinning too much money to the point

that you do not feel like you have

control over it chances are it's because

your pain pleasure seesaw is IM balance

your own brain chemistry is being

manipulated by this abundant world that

we live in and the only way to overcome

this addiction and control your spending

is to move back to equilibrium and in

the book The author offers two solutions

on how do this the first solution is

abstain from pleasure for 2 to 4 weeks

if you constantly feel the urge to spend

money to get pleasure or just to avoid

pain instead of constantly trying to

push down on the pleasure side simply

don't seek pleasure and this is

something that requires a lot of

self-discipline to do but for 2 to 4

weeks avoid indulging in spending money

distance yourself from online shopping

and avoid impulse purchases in over time

your brain will recalibrate and move

move back to equilibrium making you not

feel the urge to spend money to get rid

of that pain in your tolerance for

pleasure won't be extremely high and the

second solution is intentionally press

on the pain side of the Seesaw as we've

seen pleasure is always followed by pain

on the other hand pain is followed by

Pleasure so instead of constantly

seeking pleasurable activities like

spending money seek some painful

activities like taking a cold shower or

exercising because it will move your

brain back to equilibrium the goal is to

have this neutral balance where you

don't get trapped in this negative

feedback loop that's telling you to

spend more and more money to get

pleasure and avoid pain and when you get

back to this equilibrium you're able to

think more rationally and make better

decisions and that's how you resist the

urge to stop spending money but it's

much easier said than done so let's talk

about some of the obstacles that you'll

face when trying to overcome this with

chapter 5 overcoming emotional

obstacles in order to beat this

addiction with spending money there are

four obstacles that you might encounter

so let's talk about those four obstacles

and how to overcome them the first

obstacle is prioritizing long-term

rewards so the first obstacle that you

might face when overcoming this

addiction to spending

is focusing on long-term rewards because

when you're spending money you're often

focusing on short-term rewards you're

just getting that quick dopamine hit but

if you sit down and take the time to

write down some of your long-term goals

like having more Financial Security more

Financial Freedom in no debt then it

helps to motivate you to change your

behavior and see the cons of always

seeking these short-term goals now the

second obstacle is recognizing and

accepting your behavior patterns it's

very easy to recognize and point out

someone else's Behavior patterns but

it's very hard to recognize and accept

your own behavior patterns especially

when they're bad and when you have this

spinning addiction you might ignore

minimize or discount your patterns of

behavior you just sweep it under the rug

however if you do the uncomfortable Act

of being honest with yourself then you

can recognize your bad habits strengthen

your mind hold yourself accountable and

see you have the power to change it

being honest with yourself can open the

door to actual change now the third

obstacle is

isolation in the United States the

Surgeon General has declared an epidemic

on isolation in loneliness and when

people feel lonely and isolated they

turn to these addictive behaviors like

spending money because they think that

it brings them pleasure however it

doesn't work it just intensifies the

problem and instead we should discuss

our addictive behaviors with others and

find a supportive Community we humans

need each other and the pleasure that we

get from being around each other is much

more sustainable than the pleasure of

spending money and the final obstacle is

escapism a huge reason that people have

these addictive spending habits is

because we live in a very m mundane

world where not that much goes on and

people view it as a way to escape the

mundane world but this escapism brings a

lot of pain into our lives and instead

we should search to find hobbies and

passions that make life more interesting

and if you can overcome these obstacles

and move back to equilibrium then you

could stop spending too much money on

unnecessary things many people have

trouble with spending money because our

brains evolved in a time for hardship

and scarcity and now we're living in

times of comfort and abundance and if

you can recognize that the reason that

you're having trouble with spending too

much money is because your pain pleasure

seesaw is in balance and focus on moving

it back to equilibrium then you can have

a much healthier relationship with money

and that's how you stop spending money

on unnecessary things I hope this video

helped if you want to dive a little bit

deeper in this topic I recommend you

read dopamine Nation by Anna lmuk or

however you pronounce that last name and

with

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